In regard to viewing or evaluating a man, China is a traditional country with very traditional values. In fact, it is not only China, but also the world considers that manhood or masculinity is a very important virtue of a man. Because of the survival consciousness, our standard of beauty for men can even be said to be stereotyped as having a strong physique like Captain America, leadership, or sometimes even being careless, casual and not paying attention to the details.
As for those men with tender temperament such as "little fresh meat" (attractive but not mannish young man/actor), many people express disgust. In China, many people say, "Men should be like men, women should be like women". The essence of this sentence is that “I can tolerate the mannish girls, but not the pussies.”
I don't want to talk about female and male hormones here. Both are present in men and women, and these hormones determine our secondary sexual characteristics, which in turn have an impact on energy and personality. However, the masculine energy and feminine energies (Yang and Yin) are not completely controlled by hormones. For example, a heterosexual male may be more influenced by feminine energy and being very emotion, but this society is more likely to accept when an iron man shows his tenderness, but not when a pussy stay strong.
Most people, including myself, used to think that masculinity means having a clean haircut and muscles. But after I met some muscular men, I found that they always had something in their hearts that they didn't want to accept or were afraid to accept. This made me realize that being masculine doesn’t make them more responsible, or secure as a “real man” as I expected.
When I was a kid, I often heard family and friends say to me, "You are such a pussy", "You should be a man" and so on, but I didn’t know what the hell it was that they called masculinity? Is it to be atheletic, muscular, smoking and drinking, teasing and joking with girls? But that's not the real me. With this question in my mind, I drew three cards from the Marseille Tarot by Pablo Robledo:
"Manhood or masculinity is the courage to show your deepest feelings and thoughts." The masculine energy is to show your beauty to the outside world without fear. This energy is expansion, but you need to know your heart first. Although this process will be subject to outside judgement, you also guard the flower of your true self. We find that there is no coins in it, and in my opinion, all three cards refer to internal personality, so no matter your gender and physical appearance (coin), everyone possesses this energy.
This society thinks that if you express your feelings publicly, you are vulnerable, especially for boys. Family and social education have always taught a male in chauvinist way of education: boys should be masculine, they should have responsibilities, and they cannot shrink from suffering... But who taught us how to be brave enough to be vulnerable, how to "give in", how to seek help from others, how to express our heart? On the contrary, those who dare to express themselves are regarded as freaks, abnormal and weird. Is this the so-called masculinity?
Don’t judge people by calling them a “pussy” or “real man”, because you may find that a sissy is braver than you to be himself.
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